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Your 3 Most Important Financial Steps AFTER Divorce

Did you know that female senior citizens are 80 percent more likely to live in poverty than males? I found that sobering statistic and others about women, retirement, and money in this March 3, 2017, New York Times article. As a divorced (or divorcing) woman, wouldn’t you appreciate a road map so you don’t spend your “golden years” being broke?

My clients freak out at the thought that one day they might have to rely on their children or other family members for money. To avoid that, they want to know what they should be doing, what are the most important financial steps after divorce.

I’ll cut right to the chase: the most important practice is to create a plan for how not to run out of money. This practice involves three critical steps.

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http://sasforwomen.com/3-important-financial-steps-after-divorce/

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There will always be someone who cannot see your worth. 4 Action Steps to make sure this is not you!

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Contemplating Divorce Can Keep You Spinning!

Recently when I was unpacking boxes and settling into my new house, I came across something that seemed to speak to me from a different lifetime. It was my old journal, written years ago, during the months leading up to my decision to get divorced:

“I feel as if I am living in a twilight zone. I’m extraordinarily lonely, trapped in this weird world where I don’t know what will happen next.”

“I’m angry at him. I pity him. I miss him. I love him. I hate him.”

“I could make a choice. To leave. I could choose that.”

“Part of me wants to run far away. Part of me is scared and worried. How will the bills get paid? Do I need to protect myself? Part of me is sad. Sad that we have grown so far apart. Part of me feels guilty and part of me is just MAD.”

For months I was spinning in circles. I was desperately unhappy and fe...

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Recently when I was unpacking boxes and settling into my new house, I came across something that seemed to speak to me from a different lifetime. It was my old journal, written years ago, during the months leading up to my decision to get divorced:

“I feel as if I am living in a twilight zone. I’m extraordinarily lonely, trapped in this weird world where I don’t know what will happen next.”

“I’m angry at him. I pity him. I miss him. I love him. I hate him.”

“I could make a choice. To leave. I could choose that.”

“Part of me wants to run far away. Part of me is scared and worried. How will the bills get paid? Do I need to protect myself? Part of me is sad. Sad that we have grown so far apart. Part of me feels guilty and part of me is just MAD.”

For months I was spinning in circles. I was desperately unhappy and feeling torn, and scared. I could not figure out what to do, or what I wanted. I was caught in a vicious cycle of “should I, or shouldn’t I?” I remember feeling physically awful too…my back ached constantly, I had unrelenting headaches and weird episodes of dizziness that would come and go. My confidence was at an all time low. Literally, ZERO. At one point I wrote in my journal, “Am I capable of that?” wondering if I would be able to pay the bills by myself, which seems so unbelievable to me now. Why didn’t I think I would be able to pay the bills? How had I become so unsure of myself?

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9 Real Women Share How To Face Your Fears And LEAVE A Toxic Relationship

Feel the fear but do it anyway.

There's nothing like fear to turn on your adrenalin, accelerate your thoughts, and also, of course, shut you down.

Ever been reduced to a cowering, helpless baby in a corner? It's pretty scary, but you're far from alone.

And yet, “facing your fear” is what everyone says you must do if you want to truly change what’s negative in your life.

How do you challenge yourself to do something out of your comfort zone, or what’s more, change things in your relationship or marriage when you are scared your actions might make everything so much worse?

For a lot of women in an unhappy marriage or relationship, it’s their unconquerable fear that keeps them in that place.

It may be a fear of failure, a fear of “losing him” or everything you are comfortable with, a fear of causing harm to the children...

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Feel the fear but do it anyway.

There's nothing like fear to turn on your adrenalin, accelerate your thoughts, and also, of course, shut you down.

Ever been reduced to a cowering, helpless baby in a corner? It's pretty scary, but you're far from alone.

And yet, “facing your fear” is what everyone says you must do if you want to truly change what’s negative in your life.

How do you challenge yourself to do something out of your comfort zone, or what’s more, change things in your relationship or marriage when you are scared your actions might make everything so much worse?

For a lot of women in an unhappy marriage or relationship, it’s their unconquerable fear that keeps them in that place.

It may be a fear of failure, a fear of “losing him” or everything you are comfortable with, a fear of causing harm to the children, or a fear of not being good enough to deserve anything else than what they have known. It may also be that they just don't know how to leave a toxic relationship.

It’s a crazy, tormenting, vicious circle like Einstein’s definition of insanity: the ongoing repetition of repeating the same behavior in an unhealthy relationship over and over again while expecting a different outcome.

And yet settling for the crazy is what many people do.

And you know them … those long-term marriages, those relationships you don’t want? The ones where the partners have settled for the devil they know over the devil they don’t.

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sasforwomen/how-to-leave-toxic-relationship-even-when-scared-to-breakup-or-divorce

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There's nothing like fear to turn on your adrenalin, accelerat...

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Coparenting After Divorce? Books, Apps and Movies You MUST Know About

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The prospect of coparenting after divorce — moving on as independent (but hopefully healthy and communicating) parents to the kids, can add a whole new dimension of anxiety and fear to those coping with divorce. However, strictly speaking, coparenting does not have to be that way. Today more than ever before there are an abundance of resources on the subject from coparenting survival tips to best model books and tools. You can find help with everything from scheduling custody visits to finding ways to discuss coparenting issues with your kids and even your ex. To support you during this challenging part of your divorce journey we’ve created the following coparenting guide to provide you with resources as diverse as reading material and apps to movies.

http://sasforwomen.com/coparenting-divorce-books-apps-movies-mu...

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by SAS for Women
The prospect of coparenting after divorce — moving on as independent (but hopefully healthy and communicating) parents to the kids, can add a whole new dimension of anxiety and fear to those coping with divorce. However, strictly speaking, coparenting does not have to be that way. Today more than ever before there are an abundance of resources on the subject from coparenting survival tips to best model books and tools. You can find help with everything from scheduling custody visits to finding ways to discuss coparenting issues with your kids and even your ex. To support you during this challenging part of your divorce journey we’ve created the following coparenting guide to provide you with resources as diverse as reading material and apps to movies.

http://sasforwomen.com/coparenting-divorce-books-apps-movies-must-know/

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Looking for ways to support yourself after divorce?

Like many divorcing women, you may need to reinvent your career in this next phase of your life. That’s exciting! But also … a bit daunting. There’s a lot to consider, especially if you were a stay-at-home mom during your marriage and now need to begin earning cash. Much has changed, and with that change comes new possibilities for you in the gig economy. Side hustles offer opportunities to earn an income that won’t take you away from your children for long hours each week. Even better, some of these gigs are fun and align nicely with your family’s needs. You often control your schedule, meet new people, and sometime the money is quite good.

http://sasforwomen.com/great-gig-economy-jobs-for-divorcing-moms/

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3 Tips on How to Survive Parenting

When divorce enters the picture, and parenting becomes “co-parenting” the challenges can become multifold. To survive it, to ensure your kids fare well, you must be mindful of what matters most.

http://sasforwomen.com/3-tips-on-how-to-survive-co-parenting/

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Why Good People Go SO Bad During Divorce (& how not to let it happen to you!)

I hardly recognized myself when I was screaming at him from across the room. How did I get there?!
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